The pleasures and meanings I find in life have always come through connection. A connection with other people or animals, through being in nature or urban settings. It has come through reading, learning and adventuring, seeking new insights, new experiences, exploring this world of ours and connecting with a sense of curiosity and playfulness.
I also take joy and a strong sense of comfort and grounding from my connection to myself, the delights of being embodied and capable of relating to others in a myriad of wonderful and challenging ways.
That sense of connection has been the passion and motivation in my work as a psychotherapist and counsellor for 27 years. It has allowed me the good fortune of meeting and working therapeutically with hundreds of diverse people in a range of different settings.
I have had therapy sessions with teenage girls and women in their prison cells and exercise grounds in prisons and youth offending institutes. I have met in café’s, bedsits and parks for therapy with homeless young adults and worked for Centrepoint to help disadvantaged teenagers prepare for independent living. I have supported and counselled women escaping domestic abuse in women’s refuges and their children through therapeutic play. I have listened to the fears and worries of children calling into Childline, worked as an advocate for children in foster care and children’s homes, responded to suicidal and despairing adults all hours of the day and night at a Crisis Centre offering a drop-in counselling service 24 hours a day. (If only we could have this type of service in all boroughs and towns).
I ran an 8-bed rehabilitation service for men recovering from alcohol dependency and worked with adults with substance misuse problems and mental health concerns in supported housing projects.
I have run therapy groups for people with alcohol problems, for adolescents who self-harm, for GSRD (gender, sexual and relationship diverse) identified people and have facilitated groups in my own home practice for those wanting to use the experience of being with strangers to learn more about themselves.
In the last 10 years I have had a full-time private practice seeing clients and supervisees at my home practice in Dalston E8 and my consulting room in Chancery Lane WC1.
As a freelance trainer I have delivered training days on topics as varied as self-harm and suicide awareness, GSRD awareness, existential group therapy, relationship therapy with non-monogamous clients, trauma informed practice and working with sexual attraction in therapy.
I teach at Regents University as a visiting lecturer on the MA and ADEP psychotherapy modules. Previously I was a tutor and foundation course leader at NSPC and taught on counselling courses at Hackney Community College
Working as a psychotherapist, supervisor, trainer and tutor continues to be a great source of meaning for me. The rich mix of people I meet, the life stories they share and the experiences we create together, stay with me. Our wonderful diversity and humbling sameness allow me to stay connected to this shared experience of being human.